Our sons and daughters are going to study this particular time in their history books. We are able to see everything from our windowseat, from a different perspective, at home while we read a book, we paint or we write.Īll of us, all the world is living in a dark time, that we will never forget. We can see the sun's rays only from our window, or see a flower that blooms only from our own garden. We aren't able to appreciate it because most of the people in the USA and especially in Italy, must stay home. I've also learned something else from this.īut this year it is different. 'The Notebook' is one of my favorite movies of all time, I just now know not to take relationship advice from it. Loving someone doesn't have to be dramatic, it can be simple and raw and honest. I grew up thinking that I wanted this, but now I realize that I want a love that is simple. There are going to be rough days but that shouldn't be every day. While that makes for a great movie, that's not the kind of relationship that is going to work for everyone. This is not okay.Īllie and Noah's relationship was full of passion, half of the time it was romantic and the other half of the time it was fighting. As of now, I'm going to run away from this kindergarten move as fast as I can. We get it- you're mad- but maybe come up with a better way to convince me to stay. A guy that doesn’t respect that probably doesn’t respect you, and you’re better off without him.This movie also teaches us some other very bad relationship expectations, let's start with this example:Īlright Noah, you don't need to point. We should have enough respect for ourselves to put our goals and our aspirations first. I realize the stakes seem higher when this ultimatum is coming from Ryan Gosling, but they shouldn’t. If someone asked you to choose dating them over your career, you’d kick them to the curb in a second. He made her choose between her future and him. We need to step back and realize what this movie is teaching us about love, and about life.Allie dreamed of going to a great college and doing something wonderful with her life, and Noah made her feel terrible about that. Yes, Rachel McAdams and Ryan Gosling are two of the world’s most perfect humans, and this movie is famous for a reason, but there is another conversation that we should be having about it. Watching the film now, it is clear that Allie and Noah’s relationship is not something to be aspired to. Thankfully, that 9-year-old grew up and realized all of that was insane. I wanted to be in a relationship so passionate that it consumed me. I remember wanting to be Allie because I wanted someone to love me the way that Noah loved Allie. To be fair, I still have no idea what love is, but that’s beside the point. The film came out in 2004, a time when I was a very vulnerable 9-year-old with no idea what love was.

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